Here are some tips on how you can win your woman’s heart. Its knowledge discovered by wise men after reviewing what women prefer.
When you're at home, seek her out first before you do anything else and hug her.
Ask her specific questions so that you know what she has planned to do today.
Practice listening and ask questions to win a woman's heart.
Brace yourself to solve her problems, but understand the nature of her situation and show that you care.
To win a woman's heart, give her the real attention she asked for without waiting half an hour each day.
Surprise her with gifts at any time, especially so on dates or a meaningful celebration.
Plan ahead several days before with her. To win a woman's heart, do not wait until Friday night and asked what to do.
If on one night, she felt tired or is too busy to cook, offer to cook to win a woman's heart.
Always praise her in terms of beauty, elegance, appearance etc.
Acknowledge her feelings when she feels angry.
Offer assistance to her when she feels tired and exhausted.
Remind her of any scheduled trip much earlier so that she does not panic in preparation to win a woman's heart.
If you are late, do not forget to call her and tell her about it.
If she wants your support by asking about something, say so or not. To win a woman's heart, do not make her feel guilty to ask.
When her feelings are hurt, give her your sympathy and emphatise with her. Then be silent and allow her to feel that you understand that she was offended. To win a woman's heart, do not try to explain why you think it’s not her fault.
If you need time alone due to some unavoidable problems, tell her that you need some time to sort things out.
If your uneasy feelings have subsided after an argument, inform her politely that it was due to her but then you do not blame her. To win a woman's heart, she needs to know otherwise she may think differently.
When the weather is cold, it is best to close the distance yourself and let the heat of your body keep her warm.
At the time she wants to talk to you, close the book, magazine, newspaper or whatever you are reading, and close the TV. Give your full attention to win a woman's heart.
If she often washes the dishes, occasionally assist her, especially if she is tired.
If you were fortunate to grow up in a healthy environment, you would have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. However today, frequently people are more eager to judge you by your errors, not by your potential. You are considered a blessed person if you have a companion who always looks at your 'silver lining'. This is the someone who loves you.
2. Gives you the benefit of doubt.
There will be many times in your life when you need a little support, that little break to take just that extra step. It can seem as if your efforts are going nowhere and although you want to strive forward, there are so many problems staring at you. Someone who loves you will be a person who knows your precarious situation but opts to believe that you will make it. This is the person who is more precious to you than gold.
3. Watches over you.
There are also people who couldn’t care less about you.You need a guardian angel who is there, waiting to catch you if you fall, ready to help you when you hesitate, ready to coach and motivate you when you cannot get moving. Someone who loves you does just that. Do you know who they are?
4. Watches your back.
There are so many people these days that are waiting to catch you off guard, to make sure you don't do well, to disrupt your efforts. You may like to think that people will express joy when you do well. Many don't. If someone who loves you 'covers your back' and protects you when you are trying to run the challenge through life, give that person a big 'thanks' plus lots of your attention.
5. Tells you we all are not flawless.
You detest to be around that critical, insensitive person who reminds you, 'I told you so', when things go wrong. You don't need anyone else telling you what you already know. On the other hand there are people who just let you know that the only way any of us learn is through mistakes. When you have encountered a situation and blew it, stay close to the someone who loves you and knows that the person who hasn't done anything wrong hasn't done anything much.
6. Counsels from the heart, not from the head.
When the circumstances gets rough and some big decisions need to be made, it's okay to have people summarize the pros and cons of a predicament and give you 'calculated' answers. But if you need a prod occasionally to tip the balance, you always listen to this person, someone who loves you, who knows what you must do which will let you live with yourself and have self respect.
7. Won't be the 'yes man'
A person who loves you is not going to agree with you and tell you to ‘go for it’ if it's clearly going to be bad for you. It's sad that regularly you encircle yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The someone who loves you will tell you to get help for a drinking or drug problem and to be a good and respectable person.
8. Tells you to lie back, smell the roses, and enjoy life.
If you are a person who is a real performer and a go-getter, there are likely to be people around you who enjoy the fruits of your labor and want you to do even more. Sometimes you may even see yourself as only important when you are giving, doing, and performing. Listen to the person who tells you that life is short and you need breaks and some R&R. That is the someone who loves you who is looking out for you and your health.
9. Smiles at you and means it.
The someone who loves you looks at you with eyes that smile and mean it. Too many people give you that superficial smile, that nippy pat on the back, and then forget that you even exist.
The eyes are the windows of our soul and you can read into a person's smile if it is saying, 'You are a good person and I want to be with you as long as possible'. Don't fall for any fake smile that diverts you off in another direction, only to leave you trapped and alone.
10. Sees you as beautiful, in and out.
You know you aren't faultless. There are only too many instances of you looking around and believing that you have flaws and not like the people on television. The someone who loves you sees you through eyes of acceptance with no conditions. As you gain a few pounds and your hair gets thin, the someone who loves you still sees you as good-looking, attractive and interesting. Someone who loves you all the way with no strings or demands attached.
In this day and age, it's really vital to know who loves you. Everything in our society is disposable, and many people have carried that over into the most important relationships in their lives. Think hard and look carefully. The someone who loves you ‘like comfortable clothes’ are easy on the heart, mind, and soul.
Children thrive on love, so shower them with plenty of affection and attention.
One four-year-old boy told his father: I like sitting with you. His father had been away working for months. The boy was glowing with joy as he sat next to the person he loves.
Children yearn for their parent’s attention. They thrive on their parent’s love. Parents provide for their offspring physical needs. Sometimes they even over-indulge their kids with luxuries. They buy them gifts to make up for lost time. But do they actually communicate their love for their children?
Many tell their children that they love them. What they say does not mean much to their children if they hardly know what is going on in their offspring’s lives.
What children want is for their parents to recognize them as they grow and learn. A simple nod or a smile is enough when they come running with their new painting.
As children grow older, they discover various ways of doing things. They want their parents to take a stand with them when they are trying to do the right thing. It is those unique moments when your children least expect you to act in a certain way, that makes them sense that you love them unconditionally.
Children know when they have done something wrong. They know they will be punished for it. But when you pay attention to what is really significant, you may want to surprise your child with an thoughtful and loving heart.
You can say: What you have done is wrong. I am very angry that you did not comply with my words. I know you expect me to punish you. But this time, I prefer to turn something negative into something constructive. Let’s find a way collectively for you to learn this lesson well and not do again it.
I am not suggesting that parents let children off the hook every time they do something wrong. They will have to face the penalty of their misbehaviour or wrongdoing. You have to deal with it in an suitable manner. Children will come to believe and learn their lessons when they know that their parents still love them even though they restraint them. They learn a great deal from their relations with the significant adults in their lives.
If they hear more constructive words from their parents instead of negative ones, they will surely be on the right track in their behaviour.
Here are some ways to create cherished moments with your child:
Spend time together
The younger your child is, the more time he needs from you. If your child is still a baby, he needs you there as much as possible. Personally, you may take five minutes to shower and get ready. But your baby needs you to spend at least 20 minutes to help him get ready for his bath.
Talk him through the progression of undressing and preparing for bath time. This is effective bonding time for parent and child.
Sing along with your child
It does not matter that your singing is worse than some of the contestants in the American Idol show. You can rewrite some of the lyrics of your favourite songs with your child. It adds that extra bit of fun for your child when you put his or her name in the song.
Have fun with feel-your-way art
Be yourself when you sketch or paint with your child. Tell your child to look at the object that he is drawing, not at his paper. Your child can use a pencil to draw the outline. This method of feeling with the minds fingers when your child draws, casting away all awareness, can be quite fun. Everyone in the family can bond in too.
Engage in water play
Even adults have never-ending fun playing with water. Washing the car with a pail and large sponge can provide one of those great parent-child moments. Children also like to play in the rain. Both parent and child can go out in their raincoats and have fun in the rain.
Discover from role-playing
Role-playing can teach children many things that parents find hard to talk about. Children love trying adult clothes and pretending to be fathers and mothers. Sometimes in role-playing, parents can see reflections of themselves in their children.
From there, they can learn whether they are setting the right example for their children.
One child told his father who was reading the newspaper in the same room with him: You are not listening to me. The father behind the newspaper muttered: Of course, I am. Children know their parents care for them when they give their full attention.
Women love to shop. It is the one area of the world where they feel like they're actually to in be in command of.
Woman especially love a good buy. The question of "require" is unrelated, so don't bother pointing it out. Anything on sale is fair game.
Women never have anything to wear. Don't query the racks of clothes in the closet; you "just don't appreciate".
Woman need to shed tears. And they won't do it alone except they know you can hear them.
Women will always raise questions that have no right answer, in an attempt to trap you into feeling accountable.
Woman love to talk. Silence intimidates them and they feel a want to fill it, even if they have nothing to say.
Women need to feel like there are people not as good as they are. That's why soap operas and Oprah Winfrey-type shows are doing well.
Woman don't need sex as frequently as men do. This is because sex is more physical for men and more emotional for women. Just knowing that the man wants to have sex with them fulfills the arousing need.
Women hate bugs. Even the strong-minded ones need a man around when there's a spider or a wasp involved.
Woman can't maintain secrets. They eat away at them from the inside. And they don't view it as being unreliable, as long as they only tell two or three people.
Women always go to public restrooms in groups. It gives them a opportunity to gossip.
Woman can't say no to answer a ringing phone, no matter what she's doing. It might be the lottery calling.
Women never comprehend why men love toys. Men recognize that they wouldn't need toys if they had an "on/off" button.
Woman think all beer is the same.
Women keep three different shampoos and two different conditioners in the shower. After they shower, the bathroom will smell like a tropical rain forest.
Women don't appreciate the appeal of sports. Men seek leisure that allows them to escape reality. They seek activity that reminds them of how nasty things could be.
If a man goes on a seven-day outing, he'll bundle five days worth of clothing and will put on some things twice; if a woman goes on a seven-day trip she'll pack 21 outfits since she doesn't know what she'll feel like wearing each day.
Woman brush their hair prior to bed.
Watch a woman eat an ice cream cone and you'll have a pretty good inspiration about how she'll be in bed.
Women are rewarded less than men, except for one field: Modeling.
Woman are never wrong. Apologizing is the man's duty, "It's there in the holy book". Hmmm, who was it that gave Adam the apple?
Women do not know anything about cars. "Oil- stick, oil doesn't stick?"
Woman have superior restrooms. They get the nice chairs and red carpet. Men just get a large bowl to share.
The average number of items in a usual woman's bathroom is 437. A man would not be able to recognize most of these items.
Women love cats. Men say they love cats, but when women aren't looking, men kick cats.
Woman love to chat on the phone. A woman can visit her girlfriend for two weeks, and upon returning home, she will call the same friend and they will talk for three hours.
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the trash, answer the phone, read a book, or get the mail.
They will drive miles out of their way to keep away from the likelihood of getting lost using a shortcut.
Woman don't make an effort as hard as men during sex; after all, they don't fall asleep after wards.
Women do NOT want an sincere answer to the question, 'How do I look?'
PMS stands for: Permissible Man-Slaughter. (Or in any case men think it means that. PMS also stands for Preposterous Mood Swings and Punish My Spouse.
The first nude man a woman sees is "Ken".
Women are apprehensive about their weight, butt, and breast sizes.
Woman will make three right-hand turns to avoid making one left-hand turn.
"Oh, nothing," has a totally different meaning in woman-lingo than it does in a man’s verbal communication.
Lewis Carroll's Caterpillar had nothing on the fairer sex.
Woman cannot use a map without turning the map to match to the direction that they are heading.
All adult females are overweight by definition; don't agree with them about it. Women always have 5 pounds to lose, but don't bring this up unless they really have 5 pounds to gain.
If it is not Valentines day and you see a man in a flower shop, you can almost certainly start up a conversation by asking, "What did you do?"
Only women understand the rationale for "guest towels" and the "good china".
The fairer sex want equal rights, but you hardly ever hear them clamoring to be let into the draft to cover the responsibilities that go with those rights. All women seek equality with men until it comes to sharing the closet, taking out the trash, and picking up the check.
Origin of the word "woman" is: woo-man.
If a man ticks off a woman she will often react by getting a fuzzy toilet cover which warms their rear, but makes it not possible for the lid to stay up thus it frequently gets peed on by the guys. (which gets them in more trouble)
Women never check to see if the lid is up. They seem to prefer taking a flying butt leap towards the bowl and then chewing men out because they "left the seat up" instead of taking two seconds and lowering it themselves.
They can get out of speeding tickets by pouting. This will get men arrested.
Females don't really care about a sense of humor in a guy despite claims to the contrary. You don't see women trampling over Tom Cruise to get to Gilbert Gottfried, do you?
Women fake orgasm because men fake foreplay.
It's okay for them to dance with each other and not be gay. You don't see straight men dancing together.
They will splurge hours dressing up to go out, and then they'll go out and spend more time checking out other women. Men can never catch women checking out other men; women will always catch men checking out other women.
The most awkward thing for women is to find another woman wearing the same dress at a formal party. You don't hear men say, "Oh-my-GOD, there's another man wearing a black tux, get me outta here!"
Maybe. . .we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
Maybe . . . when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don't even see the new one which has been opened for us.
Maybe . . . it is true that we don't know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives.
Maybe . . . the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Maybe . . . the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can't go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches.
Maybe . . . you should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of, and want to do.
Maybe . . . there are moments in life when you miss someone -- a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child -- so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate them more.
Maybe . . . the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
Maybe . . . you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel
that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.
Maybe . . . you should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.
Maybe. . .giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.
Maybe . . . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lves.
Maybe . . . you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive; don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Maybe . . you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy
Maybe . . . you should try to live your life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling but when you die, you can be the one who is smiling and everyone around you crying
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5 MINUTE MANAGEMENT COURSE
Lesson 1:
A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor.
Before she! says a word, Bob says, "I'll give you $800 to drop that towel, "
After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves.
The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks, "Who was that?"
"It was Bob the next door neighbor," she replies.
"Great," the husband says, "did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?"
Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.
Lesson 2:
A priest offered a Nun a lift. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg.
The nun said, "Father, remember Psalm 129?" The priest removed his hand. But, changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again.
The nun once again said, "Father, remember Psalm 129?"
The priest apologized "Sorry sister but the flesh is weak."
Arriving at the convent, the nun sighed heavily and went on her way.
On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129
It said, "Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory."
Moral of the story:
If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.
Lesson 3:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out.
The Genie says, "I'll give each of you just one wish."
"Me first! Me first!" says the admin clerk. "I want to be in the Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world."
Puff! She's gone.
"Me next! Me next!" says the sales rep. "I want to be in Hawaii, relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life."
Puff! He's gone.
"OK, you're up," the Genie says to the manager.
The manager says, "I want those two back in the office after lunch."
Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.
Lesson 4
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing. A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing?"
The eagle answered: " Sure , why not."
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested.
All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.
Lesson 5
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy."
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients." !
The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the! tree.
Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.
Lesson 6
A little bird was flying south for the Winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.
As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.
Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is necessary your friend.
(3) And when you're in deep shit, it's better to keep your voice low and watch - enemy or friend!
Stress Management
A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "how heavy is this glass of water?
Answers called out ranged from 8oz. to 20oz.
The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.
"If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.
If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance.
"In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again."
When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. "
"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down.
Don't carry it home.
You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. "
"Relax; pick them up later after you've rested.
Life is short.
Enjoy it!
And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
* Never buy a car you can't push.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once
* We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp,some are pretty and some are dull, Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
"A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
There are a lot of rules to being happy. In fact, a lot of them apply in our daily lives. But when it all boils down to the basics, there are five rules that apply to everyone and everything in life. When applied, these rules will definitely bring happiness to us.
Rule 1: Free your heart from any hatred. The root of all evil is hatred. Having hatred in your life will only cause feelings that will destroy your spirituality. Hating doesn't serve us any purpose. And in return, it won't do anything to the people we hate. In fact, the only negative effect of it will be on us. It will make us feel low about our self and not the person we're hating. So, stop the hatred because it will do you no good.
Rule 2: Free your mind from worries. This might probably be the biggest challenge to a lot of people. We often worry a lot about things. We worry about our job. We worry about not having enough money. We worry about what tomorrow might bring. We worry about little things that don't need worrying about. What we need to do is take a moment to reflect whether it is doing us any good if we worry about theses things. If not, then do not worry about it. Worrying only attracts negative energy in our lives. And with theses negative energy, it will be hard to find happiness. Instead of worrying, it would be better if we focus our mind to the things we want. If we do that, we worry less.
Rule 3: Live a simple life. Let go of all the things you don't need in your life. Like Unnecessary drama or negative influences that you have. Take more time for yourself. Do the things you want to do. The things that you enjoy doing. Living simply might be hard to do in the busy world that you live in but if you learn to let go of the things that you don't need and the things that bring negativity into your life, you will realize how happier your life will be.
Rule 4: Give more. One of the most rewarding things that you can do is giving. It doesn't necessarily mean you give material things. We have a lot to give as a human being. We can give time to people who need it most. We can care for people who believe no one cares for them. The more you give, the more rewarding it is and the more happier you will feel.
Rule 5: Expect miracles. We all can dream and there are no limits to what we dream of. It's free to dream big! And top find real happiness, learn to expect that even your biggest dreams can come true. Expect miracles in your life to come true. Do the necessary things that you need to do and expect your dreams to become reality as you have worked hard for them. Just expect that they will come to you in the right time. Because everything happens in the exact moment and the right timing. Do not think negatively about your dreams not coming true because this will only bring negative feelings to yourself. Just wait and expect for the best. This will definitely increase your happiness.
Following these 5 simple rules will bring you a lot of happiness in your life. Just remember to take in all the positivity, as much as you can. And avoid all the negativity to truly find your way to true happiness.
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Many of us have low self esteem at one point in time or another. Self esteem situations affect people from all levels of belief, race, age, or sex. It is quite common indeed.
Improving on our low self esteem requires patience, willpower, dedication, steadfastness and firmness. Setbacks can happen as we try to build up our self esteem. These setbacks may appear in the form of not treating yourself humanely, or allowing others to treat you inadequately.
These setbacks can happen unexpectedly, and at times without you even being aware. When these setbacks do occur, it is important that you do not quit.
You may take two steps forward, one step back. Remember that and be very gentle with yourself. A creative recovery is a healing process. You may slide backward. This is normal. In your course of action to build up self esteem, you must keep in mind that your low self esteem did not take place overnight. Low self esteem or sensitivities about yourself more often than not happens at a young age. It is usually a buildup of life experiences including the way you have been treated by others that helps to form your self esteem.
Due to the time taken to form your low self esteem, only with perseverance and time can you heal and correct those negativities. If you think you are unpleasant or lacking in brains, you will not be able to transform this overnight.
There are many techniques to aid beat low self esteem and improve on your self esteem. These strategies include new beliefs about yourself. You will need to find out how to feel better about yourself. You must also keep in mind that this learning takes time.
Low self esteem can generate negative experiences, sadness, nervousness, social anxiety, and a lack of enthusiasm. Having self esteem issues can confuse your life in a negative way and life will not be as joyful as you want it to be.
There are a lot of ways to build your self esteem and as such, you do not have to be in this world with low self value all through your life.
You can beat low self esteem over time with self help methods, individual and or group counseling,. Remember, however, that you must be tolerant and persevere in this course of action and not give up on yourself.
A fresh and healthier way of feeling about yourself will improve your life and bring you the pleasure and delight that you are worthy of. Just be patient with yourself, and you will improve on your low self esteem and feel better about yourself and your life.
Be dependable. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't tell tales about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back. Nobody likes a backstabber. Never say anything about your friend that you would not want to repeat face to face. Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story. If someone says something that shocks you and doesn't seem like a thing your friend would do or say, tell them, "I know him/her, and that just doesn't sound right. Let me talk to him/her, find out his/her viewpoint on this. If it turns out to be true, I'll let you know. Otherwise, I would value it if you didn't spread that around, because it might not be." You can't play both sides of the fence.
Be respectful. Know the limitations. Things you and your friend converse should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. She shared it with you - and only you, as far as you know. Example: If your friend doesn't want to name her crush, don't push her into it. If she has named her crush, don't tell anyone else. This is just common good manners anyone and everyone deserves the belief that you will keep confidences.
Be genuine. Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain circle, or because you'd like to get to be acquainted with someone else that he or she knows? That's not friendship, it's opportunism. Every new person you meet has the right to be acknowledged (or not) on his or her own qualities, it's better to just be yourself than let anyone else manipulate you into being someone you are not.
Be honest. An untruthful person has no likelihood of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will in due course figure you out. If you found yourself lying about something, be honest - go up to them, tell them the truth and how you felt, as well as how you may think they would've felt (explain that you were second-guessing rather than trusting your friendship). Don't be a coward; if you know you were at fault for the whole predicament, own up. Simply talk about it, hope your friend will forgive you. They'd most likely be grateful for it in the future, to look back and say, 'wow!' I have/had an wonderful friend by my side.
Help out friends during times of predicament. If your friend has to go to the hospital, you could help pack his or her bags; if her/his dog runs away, help to find it, if he/she needs someone to pick him/her up, be there. Take notes for your friend in school and give them their homework assignments when they're not present and sick at home. Send cards and care letters. If there is bereavement in his/her family, you might want to attend the memorial service or cook dinner for them. Care about your friend enough to help him or her open up and let tears roll. Give them a tissue and listen. You don't have to say anything, just be with them.
Watch out for your friend. If you sense that s/he is getting intoxicated at a party, help him or her to get away from the alcohol. Don't allow your friend to drive drunk - take his or her keys and/or drive your friend home personally. If your friend begins talking about running away or committing suicide, tell someone about it. This rule overrides the "respect privacy" step, because even if your friend begs you not to tell anyone, you should do it anyway. Recommend a help line or qualified person to your friend. Talk to your and your friend's parents or partner first (unless they are the ones causing the problems) before relating to anyone else.
Give guidance, add viewpoints. Don't judge your friend, but do counsel to stay out of situations where they may hurt themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her circumstances, and what you might do in the same situation. Don't be slighted if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should... ".
If your friend is going through a crisis, don't advise them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be. This goes right along with keeping it real. It's hard not to say this sometimes, but false faith can often be worse than none, and it may chip away at your friend's capacity to get through the crisis as well as they might. Instead, tell your friend that whatever they need, you are there for them. If they need to talk, talk; if they need to sit quietly, sit with them; if they need to get their mind off things, take them to a movie or concert. Give them a hug. You are friends, not strangers, after all. Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.
Give your friend space. Appreciate if he/she wants to be without help or hang out with other people. Allow it to occur. There's no need to become over possessive or deprived. Allowing one another the time to hang with other friends gives you much-needed breathing room, and allows you to come together fresh and appreciating each other even more.
Don't be selfish. Grabbing, stealing and begging are big NOs in the convention of friendship. The friend will soon get weary of this and eventually more towards more selfless people who are enthusiastic to give what they get.
Never make a pledge you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on belief - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to recoup. Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but situations beyond your power combine to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out. Don't wait until the last minute to call and say, "I'm sorry." Instead, a quick call to say, "Hey, I know I promised to help you with whatever it is, but something unexpected came up and that means I won't be able to make it. I'm so sorry. Can we postpone?" That's just respecting the fact that, given a little notice, your friend might be able to get someone else to help with whatever it was - or not, whatever. But at least you won't be hanging your friend out on the dryers.
Listen to them. You don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it fascinating listening to someone talk about their thoughts 24/7. If you're monopolizing every dialogue with your feelings, they aren't getting anything out of the friendship. Encourage them to share their hearts with you as often as you share yours with them.
Learn to share. As before, if you have a selfless friend, they will look forward to something back, even if they don't make it apparent. This does not necessarily mean giving them large costly gifts. This can just mean being there for them when they need you.
Don't exploit their bigheartedness or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then give in return. Money doesn't have to be an issue. Don't make use of your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are prepared that they do the same at your house. No one wants to be friends with a taker or feel used. If you borrow something from a friend, take good care of it and then return it without being asked. Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretenses. It's proper decorum.
Live by the golden rule. Always take care of a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you. Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and ask for forgiveness. Don’t be a little horror!
