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Try to Save Your Marriage by Using These Tips to Stop Fighting

Sunday, April 15, 2012

You should already be aware that virtually every couple will fight once in a while. It is not a good idea to fight with your spouse too much though. Sooner or later, one of you may start thinking about getting divorced if all you do is fight. You will need to find certain ways to limit the amount of fighting that you do.


It's a common saying that married couples should never go to bed angry. Staying up until you reach a solution is usually suggested. You shouldn't always follow this advice though. If you are tired, it may just be better for you to just head to bed. After you have both slept well, you should be able to work out your problems in a rational manner.

You should never be hesitant when it comes to sharing your feelings with your spouse. Trying your best to understand your partner is very important. Always be respectful of your partner's opinions. You should never make the mistake of simply dismissing your partner's opinion. Ignoring your partners feelings won't make them go away. In fact, they will likely end up resenting it.

You should already be aware that compromise is an important ingredient for a successful marriage. You shouldn't expect to get your way every single time when you're fighting. Instead of trying to get your way, try to compromise with your partner. Both of you will benefit much better if you learn how to compromise and you will both be much happier overall.

Don't always try to place the blame on your partner either. No one really wants to accept the blame most of the time. However, if you have done something to upset your partner, even accidentally, then you should genuinely express regret. Try to avoid raising your defenses whenever you and your partner are trying to have a conversation. Avoid name-calling or doing other things that will trigger your partner to put his or her defenses up too.

Remember what's truly important in your relationship. If certain trivial things happen, then don't waste too much time arguing about them. You should only take the time to have arguments about things that are truly important.

If you and your partner live together for many years, then you certainly won't be able to avoid having fights. This doesn't mean that you will need to argue with your partner every single day. Try to argue in a rational manner and keep your heads about yourselves.

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on Stop Divorce and Stop a Divorce.

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