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The 'Someone' Who Loves You

Sunday, July 11, 2010

'The Someone' Who Loves You

1. Sees the best in you.
If you were fortunate to grow up in a healthy environment, you would have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. However today, frequently people are more eager to judge you by your errors, not by your potential. You are considered a blessed person if you have a companion who always looks at your 'silver lining'. This is the someone who loves you.

2. Gives you the benefit of doubt.
There will be many times in your life when you need a little support, that little break to take just that extra step. It can seem as if your efforts are going nowhere and although you want to strive forward, there are so many problems staring at you. Someone who loves you will be a person who knows your precarious situation but opts to believe that you will make it. This is the person who is more precious to you than gold.

3. Watches over you.
There are also people who couldn’t care less about you.You need a guardian angel who is there, waiting to catch you if you fall, ready to help you when you hesitate, ready to coach and motivate you when you cannot get moving. Someone who loves you does just that.  Do you know who they are?

4. Watches your back.
There are so many people these days that are waiting to catch you off guard, to make sure you don't do well, to disrupt your efforts. You may like to think that people will express joy when you do well. Many don't. If someone who loves you 'covers your back' and protects you when you are trying to run the challenge through life, give that person a big 'thanks' plus lots of your attention.

5. Tells you we all are not flawless.
You detest to be around that critical, insensitive person who reminds you, 'I told you so', when things go wrong. You don't need anyone else telling you what you already know. On the other hand there are people who just let you know that the only way any of us learn is through mistakes. When you have encountered a situation and blew it, stay close to the someone who loves you and knows that the person who hasn't done anything wrong hasn't done anything much.

6. Counsels from the heart, not from the head.
When the circumstances gets rough and some big decisions need to be made, it's okay to have people summarize the pros and cons of a predicament and give you 'calculated' answers. But if you need a prod occasionally to tip the balance, you always listen to this person, someone who loves you, who knows what you must do which will let you live with yourself and have self respect.

7. Won't be the 'yes man'
A person who loves you is not going to agree with you and tell you to ‘go for it’ if it's clearly going to be bad for you. It's sad that regularly you encircle yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The someone who loves you will tell you to get help for a drinking or drug problem and to be a good and respectable person.

8. Tells you to lie back, smell the roses, and enjoy life.
If you are a person who is a real performer and a go-getter, there are likely to be people around you who enjoy the fruits of your labor and want you to do even more. Sometimes you may even see yourself as only important when you are giving, doing, and performing. Listen to the person who tells you that life is short and you need breaks and some R&R. That is the someone who loves you who is looking out for you and your health.

9. Smiles at you and means it.
The someone who loves you looks at you with eyes that smile and mean it. Too many people give you that superficial smile, that nippy pat on the back, and then forget that you even exist.
The eyes are the windows of our soul and you can read into a person's smile if it is saying, 'You are a good person and I want to be with you as long as possible'. Don't fall for any fake smile that diverts you off in another direction, only to leave you trapped and alone.

10. Sees you as beautiful, in and out.
You know you aren't faultless. There are only too many instances of you looking around and believing that you have flaws and not like the people on television. The someone who loves you sees you through eyes of acceptance with no conditions. As you gain a few pounds and your hair gets thin, the someone who loves you still sees you as good-looking, attractive and interesting. Someone who loves you all the way with no strings or demands attached.

In this day and age, it's really vital to know who loves you. Everything in our society is disposable, and many people have carried that over into the most important relationships in their lives. Think hard and look carefully. The someone who loves you ‘like comfortable clothes’ are easy on the heart, mind, and soul.