How to Strengthen Marriage After Having a Child: Tips for Wives

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Giving care to a child, managing household chores, and having a career or job can make it very challenging to give time for your other half. This is the time when differences emerge and start to deteriorate a good marital bond. But exerting some effort could definitely bring back the warmth and reinforce your relationship with your husband. The tips below can help you and your hubby bond well with each other even after having a little one:

1. Keep in mind that both of you are experiencing struggles in your parenthood. While motherhood will challenge you physically and emotionally, fatherhood increases your husband's responsibility to provide for your family. Most often than not, it's the communication gap that can lead in misunderstandings that could most probably lead to unnecessary quarrels and arguments. So it is important to talk to your hubby about struggles each of you is facing, your feelings, and then find solutions together.

2. Taking care of and raising a baby is a daunting thing. See to it that your husband understands this and helps you do managing chores in the house which were your sole responsibility before you had a baby. It's best to share responsibilities to makes things easier. This helps relax both your mind and your body and also helps make your marital relationship become stronger.

3. Both you and your husband may have different ways to dealing with your baby. You may be a bit strict with your infant's sleeping time, diet, and other habits, but your partner might less worried or show laxity regarding such matters and may just focus on what makes the little one happy. Do not let this difference provoke misunderstanding and quarrels. It's essential to respect each other's parenting style. Instead of constantly opposing your spouse, it's better to allow him to deal with his own opinion or decision. For example, if he lets your child sleep at irregular hours, see to it that you both agree that he will be the one to take care of your baby if he or she stays up until dawn or wakes up at midnight.

4. After a child's birth, having a special time with your hubby suddenly becomes tough. But bear in mind that intimacy, time, and romance are a very important part of a happy married life. So even if you may have hard times getting intimate now that you have a child, you could at least stay connected through lots of hugs, cuddles, and kisses in order to keep the romance alive.

If you're having difficult times in your marriage now that you have a little one, consider MARRIAGE Counseling Melbourne to get helpful advice and counselling from a professional.